Lifestyle Parenting

Making big life decisions 

May 18, 2017

There are lots of big life decisions; marriage, buying a house, deciding to have children. It’s the latter that’s led me to my own very recent big life changing decision – to take a career break.

I never really knew what I wanted to do when I ‘grew up’. I didn’t particularly enjoy school so after my A levels I decided working was the way forward for me. I joined a PR company and soon learnt that lots of my peers had either just graduated or were working there on one year placements from University. Suddenly University appealed to me; access to more education but with subjects that interested me and a years placement which could ultimately mean good job prospects. I was sold.

I loved my degree in Business and Marketing and realised I’d found my niche. For the first time ever I wasn’t middle of the class, I graduated with top marks in International Marketing and Small Business Management, I also had an amazing placement at a car manufacturer in Digital Marketing. I was hooked and suddenly I had drive and determination to do something with my career.

My first role as a digital media planner at a media agency opened my eyes to an amazing new digital world. This was in 2007 so nowhere near where we are now but marketing budgets were being spent in digital and the traditional landscape was changing.

After three years there I decided to branch out and become a Communications Planner and found a brilliant company which I worked at for seven years. I worked with so many amazing clients from telecoms, to cereals to toothpaste and learnt SO much. I worked hard, often into the early hours and put myself forward for new initiatives / new business pitches.

And then it changed

It was after the birth of Amelie and returning to work that things changed. It was harder to work late, I had a gorgeous girl to get home to. When she was poorly I found it agonising having to leave work and people in the lurch – but I knew she was the most important thing and needed to be there for her. The commute was hard, if the trains were delayed how would I get her? We have no Grandparents nearby so I was kind of stuck.

I felt guilty all the time. Guilt to my job and my team and guilt at home. 

It has been on this maternity leave that I have felt like I needed to make some changes.

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Being a Mama to two has been hard work and I spent a lot of Evie’s early days wondering how I would juggle everything if I went back to work. It felt like an impossible task, so I started to think about what I could do instead; re-train to be a teacher – it’s something I have always wanted to do, set up my own business – but what? Find a marketing role in Surrey – but I didn’t want to work five days a week.

You can see the circles I was going in.

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I went round these choices until something happened and that was this blog and my Instagram page. My sister encouraged me to start my Instagram back in late December 2016 and I thought ‘I might as well’, my blog followed soon after and then my YouTube channel. Suddenly something clicked – this is what I LOVE doing and it actually felt like that THING I have always searched for but never found.

I wanted and want Surrey Mama to be a friend to other Mum’s going through the journey I am going on. If I can help one person with a blog post then I have achieved something – I know for one I love finding a post that helps me on my parenting journey so I aim to do that with everything I post. 

I’m not sure this will pay my bills and it certainly isn’t paying me anything at the moment so my blogging career as a SAHM might be short lived but for now this is what I am going to do because I love it.

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When I wrote about my decision to leave my job on Instagram I was overwhelmed by the comments I received, both of well wishes but also from Mama’s in a similar situation; some about to leave jobs and some who had taken the plunge and decided to make a change for them and their families.
I was really inspired by some of the stories and in my current situation wanted to hear more so I have decided to start a weekly series on my blog called ‘Mama you can’ so I can share these stories with you all.

This series will share stories from Mama’s who have been in a similar situation to me – after little ones came along realised that their jobs just weren’t going to work with their new circumstances, so they either re-trained, started a business or went freelance.

Now, I am not saying that everyone should quit their jobs, that might get me into trouble! However I want to show that there isn’t only one route in life once you have children and most importantly it’s about having the confidence to make a change, the confidence in yourself to believe that you can do something else / ask for flexible hours / run a business from home.

My biggest challenge throughout life has been confidence and it’s something I continually have to work on, so reading these stories has given me a little boost and I hope that this series is inspiring to others as well.

For the first in the Mama you can series click here. 

Here’s to lots of life changing decisions, big steps and changes in direction! It’s certainly been an interesting few months, I’m excited to see what the next few months hold.

Sarah x

 

 

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29 Comments

  • Reply Laura Appleton May 18, 2017 at 7:53 am

    A brilliant and brave decision. I am enjoying your blog and Instagram posts so hope it all works out for you! x

  • Reply motherhoodtherealdeal May 18, 2017 at 11:39 am

    Lovely post I remember feeling just this way at my blogging journey but as I’ve said to you before….I think you could really go places my love! Good luck with it all and thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely xoxo

  • Reply oldhouseintheshires May 18, 2017 at 6:53 pm

    I’m a newbie too…..I’m loving it too! Go for it! What have you got to loose! Xx

  • Reply Kristie- Mammaprada May 18, 2017 at 7:46 pm

    A huge step! But I think it’s seems a natural progression for you. Your blog is doing so well and you can tell how much you enjoy it. ? xxx #coolmumclub

  • Reply Helena May 19, 2017 at 9:20 pm

    I think you have done incredibly well in life and will continue to thrive. #coolmumclub

  • Reply thetaleofmummyhood May 21, 2017 at 6:46 pm

    Give it your all, hard work pays off and if you love it you’re half way there! Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx

    • Reply sarahsurreymama May 21, 2017 at 6:51 pm

      Thanks for hosting and having me! Fingers crossed xx

  • Reply mommyhomemanager May 22, 2017 at 3:42 pm

    Love your story. Having a baby changes so many things about us that we never would have imagined. I would love to join you someday.
    Let me know how we can help each other. 🙂
    Have a great week.
    #globalblogging

  • Reply wendy May 25, 2017 at 7:56 pm

    Good luck lovely! Big life decisions can be scary but sometimes we just have to go for it and see what happens. Your blog is fab and I am sure you will be able to make it a success xx #BlogCrush

    • Reply sarahsurreymama May 25, 2017 at 10:53 pm

      Thanks so much! I agree – you only live once so sometimes you just have to do it! ?

  • Reply Kelly Edwards May 26, 2017 at 6:14 pm

    Such an exciting change! It’s something I’m really interested in, but I rarely make money from at the minute. At the very least I’d one day like to be in a position to boost my income! Anyway, great post lovely Thanks for linking up with #forhteloveofBLOG

    • Reply sarahsurreymama May 29, 2017 at 8:08 pm

      Thank you. No nor do I so for now it’s for the love so we’ll see what happens. Good luck to you as well x

  • Reply JakiJellz May 27, 2017 at 8:08 pm

    Wow good luck. I hope it works out for you! #familyfunlinky

  • Reply tammymum May 28, 2017 at 6:56 pm

    Ah well bloody good for you lovey. I made the same decision last year when my mat leave came to an end. Hardest decision I have ever made but I don’t regret it. I wish you nothing but the best going forward and look forward to reading more form Surrey Mama. Good luck lovey and thanks for joining us #familyfun

    • Reply sarahsurreymama May 29, 2017 at 8:06 pm

      Thanks so much! It is a really, really hard one isn’t it. Thanks so much for the wishes xx

  • Reply kristin mccarthy June 13, 2017 at 3:51 pm

    I feel so fortunate to have been able to stay home with the girls when I could no longer emotionally deal with working. The guilt ate me alive every day.

    #triumphanttales

    • Reply Sarah June 13, 2017 at 8:20 pm

      Lovely to meet you! It’s so difficult, the guilt, isn’t it. I really struggled with it with Amelie. x

  • Reply Mrs Mummy Harris June 19, 2017 at 7:46 am

    I started Blogging on maternity leave and LOVE ITTTTTTT! I’ve started to earn a little bit each month for the last few months but i’m working full time and blogging every spare minute possible so nine months down the line I’m so chuffed how well its going!
    Its amazing how many people say that children changed their perspective regarding careers! I was such a career girl and now as much as i cant be a SAHM as it made my depression worse, blogging from home full time with Ben and his nans a couple days a week gives me the perfect balance of time with Ben and doing my dream job!
    Thank you for sharing this with us at #TriumphantTales. I hope to see you back tomorrow

  • Reply Michelle Twin Mum June 27, 2017 at 9:22 pm

    Well done on making that massive decision, I hope you are still enjoying yoru time at home with your lovely girls. Mich x

    • Reply Sarah June 27, 2017 at 10:34 pm

      Thank you! Yes I am, it’s tough though – but I’m lucky for now I can spend lots of time with them x

    • Reply Sarah July 4, 2017 at 10:04 am

      Thank you. I definitely am, now it’s working out how to fit all the work in around them… xx

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