Parenting at the best of times can be hard work. Parenting with another parent can be even harder. Pre-kids it was easy (ish), you went out to work, saw friends, cooked together, did fun things on the weekends then along came children and everything changed.
It’s so important when you’re parents to not only be united and consistent for your children but to try and have time together where you remember the life before children (it’s a foggy memory for me)!!
We don’t always get this right, but over the last few four years, we’ve definitely learnt a few things that we try and put into practice on a weekly basis.
How do I think you can be the best parenting team?
1. Tell each other why they’re fab
Try to remember to tell each other why they’re fab, it’s amazing how much a small compliment can mean. Sometimes it can feel like it’s all about the kids so if your husband tells you something great about work, tell him how proud of him you are and likewise if you’ve had a tough day with the little ones – partners tell her how amazing she is juggling everything! You’ll bond and it’ll make you take a look at what the other person is doing.
2. Try and let the little things go
It can be so easy to get annoyed about little things like not putting the bins out, or turning the dishwasher on the wrong setting, but really does it matter in the grand scheme of things? Try not to let little household annoyances turn into big things.
3. Talk, talk and talk some more
When you’re knackered it can be very easy to sit in silence in the evenings, even if it’s a 10-minute chat, talk to each other. If you tell your partner about what the kids are doing they’ll understand how they’re growing more and
4. Do things together
It’s so important to do things together without the kids. We don’t have family that close by so I know how hard it can be, but when you can pull those babysitting favours in and have some time to remember what life was like pre-kids. The time together can really make all the little things that annoy you seem silly when you go back to ‘normality’.
5. Talk about the kids and bond over that
The great thing about having kids is that you always have something to talk about! Bond over some of the funny things they are doing or saying, it can be a great thing to talk about and lighten the mood.
6. But not all the time
Don’t talk about them all the time though, try and have a hobby or something you both enjoy that isn’t just about the kids, it will help you remember who YOU are.
7. Make sure you both have the same rules
Make sure you have the same rules, especially as the kids grow up. There is nothing worse than having negotiations with a three-year-old all day over why they can’t have something only for Daddy to come home and give it to them!
8. Have one night a week…
Where you turn your phones off, sit at the table and eat together. Then do something like watch a film. My husband and I work most evenings so our Friday nights are reserved for this ‘together time’.
How do you try and be the best parenting team? Do you do any of the above?