Loneliness wasn’t a word I had ever associated with Motherhood, when you’re pregnant there is an expectation that you’ll have the baby, walk into a group of lifelong NCT or a similar childbirth group friends and you’ll all have coffee dates until you can’t drink any more coffee!
Often the reality is very different to this. I have written about ways to enjoy your maternity leave previously, but today I want to share some of my tips on how to try and avoid loneliness as a Mum.
Top 5 tips for avoiding loneliness as a Mum
Try to get out every day
Try to get out every day and find a place where other Mums are. I went to a park the other day and there was nobody there! I know that at my local park there is always someone to speak to.
If you can’t get to a park, go to a coffee shop, a shop – even a small conversation can make the world of difference on a hard day.
Find a local parenting group
Check to see if your local area has a Facebook group for Mums, often you’ll find posts from Mums who have just had a baby or have moved to the area. You might be able to organise a meet up with some of them.
Find your local Sure Start Centre
This has been a lifeline for me recently. Our local Sure Start centre offers a stay and play activity morning, messy play, parenting classes, a sensory room and an open garden for local Mums to use.
It’s well worth looking into as an activity as often it’s all free, so a good one to keep weekly expenses down.
Talk to people
This is the hardest one for me, but talking to people is so important and the way I have made most of my friends. If you go to a baby group if you’re in the park just chat with the other Mums there. You may find they were too nervous to speak to you and just really needed a chat.
Use the Internet
Use the internet to find local Mums. I have found Instagram amazing for finding local friends, I have started chatting to friends on Instagram and have then gone on to meet them at local attractions.
You can also use the internet to chat to Mums in a similar situation. I have found Babycentre birth groups brilliant for finding Mums with children at a similar age and Channel Mum have a wealth of support and information available.
If you are a local Surrey Mummy I have just set up Surrey Mama meet-ups, they will run regularly and we aim to visit local National Trust properties and places like Wisley. Head over to my Surrey Mama meet-ups page on Instagram for more…
What are your top tips for avoiding loneliness?