Parenting

Tips to avoid loneliness as a Mum

March 28, 2018
loneliness mum

Loneliness wasn’t a word I had ever associated with Motherhood, when you’re pregnant there is an expectation that you’ll have the baby, walk into a group of lifelong NCT or a similar childbirth group friends and you’ll all have coffee dates until you can’t drink any more coffee!

Often the reality is very different to this. I have written about ways to enjoy your maternity leave previously, but today I want to share some of my tips on how to try and avoid loneliness as a Mum.

Top 5 tips for avoiding loneliness as a Mum

Try to get out every day

Try to get out every day and find a place where other Mums are. I went to a park the other day and there was nobody there! I know that at my local park there is always someone to speak to. 

If you can’t get to a park, go to a coffee shop, a shop – even a small conversation can make the world of difference on a hard day.

Find a local parenting group

Check to see if your local area has a Facebook group for Mums, often you’ll find posts from Mums who have just had a baby or have moved to the area. You might be able to organise a meet up with some of them. 

Find your local Sure Start Centre

This has been a lifeline for me recently. Our local Sure Start centre offers a stay and play activity morning, messy play, parenting classes, a sensory room and an open garden for local Mums to use. 

It’s well worth looking into as an activity as often it’s all free, so a good one to keep weekly expenses down.

Talk to people

This is the hardest one for me, but talking to people is so important and the way I have made most of my friends. If you go to a baby group if you’re in the park just chat with the other Mums there. You may find they were too nervous to speak to you and just really needed a chat. 

Use the Internet

Use the internet to find local Mums. I have found Instagram amazing for finding local friends, I have started chatting to friends on Instagram and have then gone on to meet them at local attractions.

You can also use the internet to chat to Mums in a similar situation. I have found Babycentre birth groups brilliant for finding Mums with children at a similar age and Channel Mum have a wealth of support and information available. 

If you are a local Surrey Mummy I have just set up Surrey Mama meet-ups, they will run regularly and we aim to visit local National Trust properties and places like Wisley. Head over to my Surrey Mama meet-ups page on Instagram for more…

What are your top tips for avoiding loneliness?

Sarah xx

You Might Also Like

5 Comments

  • Reply Enda Sheppard March 29, 2018 at 11:22 am

    All of the above … but the most important, I think, is getting out, no matter how reluctant you are, and interacting with people. Your internal voice can be so over the top but when you exercise your real voice it’s amazing how normal it sounds!!

  • Reply Sara @ Magical Mama Blog March 29, 2018 at 2:10 pm

    I wish I would have read this when I was on Maternity Leave! My poor husband got pictures and text messages from me constantly all day! Brilliant advice!
    #ThursdayTeam

  • Reply Rhian Harris March 30, 2018 at 4:35 pm

    I felt quite isolated when I had my daughter. I had friends, got to groups, and talked to people, but often found them quite unfriendly. So I simply opened up about it to some people I’d never met before and low and behold, they were too. Now we are lifelong friends. #thursdayteam

  • Reply Helena April 2, 2018 at 4:38 pm

    When I had my first child we tried out a lot of the classes in the area and really loved it. Sadly my second daughter has not been to any of these groups (mum guilt). However, we look forward to our local toddler group once a week that caters to us all. I can truly understand how easy it is to become lonely in motherhood. #ThursdayTeam

  • Reply Kirsty April 4, 2018 at 2:28 pm

    Love these tips. I struggled in the beginning very much. My toddler group closed down not long after I found it and I didn’t get on with the Sure Start centre at all…. Mostly because I lived directly opposite and couldn’t go anywhere without the lady collaring me for a chat. She meant no harm and was only being nice but sometimes I just wanted to get where I was going. After about 6 weeks post baby I just stopped going all together. I have to say Instagram has been my biggest life saver. There is no pressure to talk to people until I feel ready.

  • Leave a Reply