Last year was a big year for me. I started a blog, I started a Youtube channel, I resigned from my job, I started a business.
Just a few little things then… 🙂
Last year was probably the year I learnt the most in my 33 years so I thought I would write down some of the things I have learnt on that journey.
That life really is too short
Without going into details 2017 threw a pretty awful curveball at my family and what that taught me was that life really is too flipping short to sweat the small stuff. Around the time we had this news I was deciding whether I should pursue my dreams of working from home to spend more time with the girls or resign from my job in London. Of course we all know my decision but this 100% gave me the last kick to go for it.
If you really want to do something, get out there and do it!
You know what, there are always a million reasons why we shouldn’t do something. The mortgage needs to be paid, bills come through every month, the niggling fear of something not working out…
Problem is, if you don’t take risks how will you ever know?
Now I’m not saying resign from your job right now, but with a little planning and organisation you can try something new, whether it’s through saving, through a sabbactical or dare I say it through doing two jobs at once to build up a dream. It’s all possible and my Mama You Can series shows me every week that more and more Mums are taking a risk and going for it! (if you haven’t read the series and you are thinking of making a change to your work life, do check it out, there is some amazing advice).
Confidence can be faked, but don’t let a lack of it stop you
Confidence can be a real stopper to dreams. I have been so surprised this year to hear lots of people say they were nervous or didn’t have the confidence to do something. I am the same deep down, but I massively fake confidence at times because I know that I will regret not doing something!
Focus on you and not others
This is something I really had to try and do early on in my blogging career. There are so many amazing parenting bloggers out there it can be hard to see what everyone else is doing and wonder ‘should I be doing that’, ‘am I as good as them’, ‘will I ever do something like that’? As soon as I focused on me and what I wanted to be doing I felt happier and sure that was reflected in what I produced.
I see people writing about this a lot in the blogging world and there is good reason for it, be real and be yourself.
If you post about things that you genuinely love it is so much nicer to read. Take my pink themed Instagram, some may dislike the very girly feel to it, but I LOVE pink, that’s me. It’s a running joke in my offline friendship group that I will always be wearing pink when they see me and they are usually right, so it kind of makes sense that my blog and Instagram follow that ‘me’.
Forget the stats
I remember panicking every time a certain blogging report came out every month, I was desperate to see where I ranked. I got to a pretty good position and then they changed the algorithm they used and I went down. I was crushed, disappointed and questioned what I was doing.
A month or so along the line I started to do some really amazing work with brands and was so busy I forgot about the stats. I hand on heart have no idea where I rank right now and I feel a million times happier. I am doing things that I love and that is the main thing!
Work hard, but make time for you
This is something I have learnt the hard way and will probably continue to. I work hard, maybe sometimes too hard and I don’t give enough time to myself. Last year saw me get to a point where I was so run down my back would give in, it’s my weak spot and I know it’s my body telling me to stop.
This year I need to react way before that point and not get there in the first place. I need to make more time for me.
Hard work pays off
The blogging world is competitive. Some might say it’s not, but like every industry it is deep down. As with the real world there will always be the less genuine people; the ones that buy fake followers, others that follow thousands to then unfollow them – you know the ones.
They might have a great thing in that moment, but long term I am not so sure. When I get to a new milestone I feel such a sense of pride because I worked hard for that and for me that’s a much bigger win.
Surround yourself with good friends
I’m not going to lie, last year was tough. But I surrounded myself with good friends and amazing family. Without them this all would have been a lot more difficult. Pick your tribe, look after them and they will look after you.
If you’re not 100% proud or sure of something it’s probably not right
Bin it, start again. There have been times I haven’t been 100% about something, so I’ve started again and I have been so much happier with the outcome. In the same vain I have also hit send or publish and I’ve known it wasn’t right.
We’re not all perfect, but we can learn from all of our experiences and that 100% happy feeling definitely makes for better content.
So there are the things I have learnt on my whirlwind tour of Business Director at a Media Agency to work at home blogger, vlogger, small business owner Mama.
Let’s see what 2018 teaches me, I can’t wait!