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The start of our Christmas traditions

November 27, 2017

It’s the season to be with family, to give and receive, to eat, drink and be merry. We can’t wait! But for us, before all of that starts we had a little something to do first. Start and agree our family traditions.

It’s been really exciting to start our Christmas traditions as a family of four. We have started by having an afternoon where we put the tree up with Christmas nibbles and music, which we love doing and really look forward to.

Now Amelie is getting to an age where she is understanding the concept of Christmas and mostly the concept of Father Christmas as parents we needed to agree what Father Christmas delivers and when we open presents.

When my husband and I sat down to talk about this we realised our families had very different Father Christmas traditions when we were growing up. In my household we received a stocking from Father Christmas and then a main present from our parents. In my husbands family all of their presents came from Father Christmas.

When we discussed it was clear we both liked the idea of Father Christmas delivering a stocking and the main presents coming from us or family. We felt this would teach the girls about giving, receiving and saying thank you for their presents – rather than a magical being delivering hundreds of pounds worth of bikes/electricals etc. I really want to ensure they appreciate that presents cost money and that presents worth a lot of money don’t just appear. I also hope that this will make the finding out about Father Christmas easier, if they have always received bigger gifts from us I hope this won’t be as much of an issue.

So, that is what we’re doing. I don’t think there is a right or wrong at all, it’s definitely personal preference. As it was something we really had to think about and had very different experiences when we were young I decided to ask other bloggers what they do and it’s a very interesting read.

Other bloggers

Vicky from Family travel with Ellie

In our house Father Christmas brings stockings for everyone and afew gifts. Other gifts are from us and family. We always embrace Father Christmas and his visit but don’t allow him to have all the “gift” glory!

Emma from Emma and the girls

We do the stockings on the bed and their presents of us are from Santa and then ones that from family they know nanny brought that and auntie brought that so on. 

Sinead from Sinead

Santa brings the stockings for our family……..the Small gets one ‘big’ gift from all the family together along with other bits and bobs on the day. Sounds a bit unChristmassy, but we aren’t religious and I want him to understand the value of the gifts he receives.

Emma from The Cheshire Wife

In our house Mummy and daddy send money to santa to buy gifts but only if he’s being good. The rest are from Mummy , daddy and family 

Lianne from Anklebitersadventures

I just say that santa brings all the presents as that’s what I was told when I was little.

Georgina from Pixie Does

For us, Father Christmas brings one or two presents, nothing too expensive. Someone one said to me not to give big presents from father xmas – imagine the kids talking and wondering why FC brought some of them fancy expensive presents, and little presents to kids who’s parents don’t have much money – so I’ve made sure to keep the FC presents sensible in value. We also always pit out a glass of milk and mince pie for FC, and a carrot for Rudolph.

Nicola from Allthingsspliced 

As children we were always of the impression that the presents were bought and paid for by our parents, family and friends, but that Father Christmas delivered them all. I didn’t realise that other families thought differently until I was an adult.

Emmy from

A version I heard that I’m going to go with is santa brings a present and a stocking. That’s why we buy presents and so do other people (for him etc) however, some people aren’t as fortunate as us, so sometimes Santa takes them extra (to explain why some people think santa brings them all) we can help by giving our no longer loved toys to other people (possibly via the elf on the shelf?) It’s by no means a foolproof version, but I think it’s got the most potential to last and explain discrepancies. Then one day I’ll explain that doing nice things and making the magic means you are Santa so you can’t tell others!

Nicky from

Santas brings stockings and one present. The Christmas elves bring the Christmas Eve hamper…

Rhiannan from Mummy of four

We have tend to have a present from Mummy & Daddy and from siblings under the tree then things from Father Christmas in sacks left in the lounge. They don’t tend to have “main” expensive presents for Christmas, we save these for birthdays. We decided this as when they have had main presents for Christmas, we ended up buying a pile of stocking fillers to fill their eyes too. 

Another tradition we have, is that they are allowed to open one present each from under the tree during the day on Christmas Eve. We have found out that this spreads the magic and keeps our very excited children entertained.

Kati from How to rock at parenting

In our house, Father Christmas only leaves one thing in each child’s stocking – a book. It’s got the double effect of both keeping the tradition alive without ever going OTT with presents and it also reminds them how precious books are.

Awaybies Kids

In our house we have lots of little presents of low value in the stockings, and they are individually wrapped (hubby insists on this so I get him to do it, lol!) Then the main, larger presents are from us. Our kids’ birthdays are in late November so its often hard to find something they haven’t just received! 

Leanne from A slice of my life wales

Santa brings the stocking and the presents off her letter to him, but she will be told to only put one or two things on her letter to Santa! Everything else will be from us/other family members.

Hollie from Thrifty Mum

We’re doing one main one for the boys to share being from Father Christmas as they’re only 14 months apart. The rest are from mummy and daddy. I’m trying this so when people or importantly other children ask my boys what Father Christmas brought them they can just say the one thing and rather than reel off a long list and hopefully their little friends won’t feel uncomfortable if they only got one gift in total. 

How do you work Christmas in your household? Do you have Christmas traditions now you’re a family?

Sarah x

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  • Reply Lu Lovely November 27, 2017 at 5:17 pm

    I love hearing about people’s Christmas traditions. Some people have such beautiful ideas.
    We had stockings from Santa and one “main” present that they’d asked for from him. The rest were from us.

    • Reply Sarah November 28, 2017 at 9:56 pm

      I think this is what it feels like the majority of people are doing and one that I feel happy with cx

  • Reply Jill November 29, 2017 at 12:09 am

    I think gift giving is really a staple during Christmas season. Though we have different traditions, it’s still nice to know what other people are doing to celebrate the holidays!

    • Reply Sarah December 16, 2017 at 7:19 am

      I agree, I actually prefer giving. I love hearing other people’s traditions. ‪Thanks for reading xx‬

  • Reply Vicki Hurrell November 29, 2017 at 9:06 pm

    Blog Crush 😍 love this post we have a tradition of reading our Xmas story before bed on Xmas eve it’s been in the family for over 29 years and I’ll pass it to my kids too!

    • Reply Sarah December 16, 2017 at 7:18 am

      Thanks so much! That is such a lovely tradition I might have to steal it (if you don’t mind) xx

  • Reply Alice | Letters to my Daughter November 30, 2017 at 9:21 pm

    Our daughter is only 2.5 so this is the first year she’s really understood the concept too. She’s written a letter to Santa asking for one present, and he’ll bring that and a few gifts in the stocking (including satsuma and 50p as this was always in ours growing up!!) The rest of the gifts will be form us / whoever bought them. I’d like to start doing the Christmas Eve box with new pjs and a book as it’s a nice way to build up to the following day. Plus of course there’s putting out the milk and carrots for the reindeer and mince pie and brandy for FC!

    And congratulations because someone loved this post so much, they added it to the BlogCrush linky! Feel free to collect your “I’ve been featured” blog badge 🙂 #blogcrush

  • Reply Maggie December 10, 2017 at 5:53 am

    My daughter is almost three so this is the first year she kind of “gets it.” We haven’t told her much about Father Christmas/Santa yet. So far she says he is a “little scary” haha. She may think differently Christmas morning! We plan to do a stocking and one or two reasonable Santa presents, like books or puzzles. #blogstravaganza

    • Reply Sarah December 16, 2017 at 7:13 am

      I definitely think she’ll change her mind on Christmas morning. Have a lovely Christmas xx

  • Reply The Mummy Bubble December 10, 2017 at 7:22 am

    We are going to do the stockings from Santa thing as well, I think that’s really nice for kids.
    We make a Christmas tree decoration every year which is fun too. #blogstravaganza

  • Reply The Tale of Mummyhood December 10, 2017 at 1:04 pm

    We started the new pyjamas tradition last year, the girls love it! This year we’ve got them new dressing gowns too! Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx

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