It’s the season to be with family, to give and receive, to eat, drink and be merry. We can’t wait! But for us, before all of that starts we had a little something to do first. Start and agree our family traditions.
It’s been really exciting to start our Christmas traditions as a family of four. We have started by having an afternoon where we put the tree up with Christmas nibbles and music, which we love doing and really look forward to.
Now Amelie is getting to an age where she is understanding the concept of Christmas and mostly the concept of Father Christmas as parents we needed to agree what Father Christmas delivers and when we open presents.
When my husband and I sat down to talk about this we realised our families had very different Father Christmas traditions when we were growing up. In my household we received a stocking from Father Christmas and then a main present from our parents. In my husbands family all of their presents came from Father Christmas.
When we discussed it was clear we both liked the idea of Father Christmas delivering a stocking and the main presents coming from us or family. We felt this would teach the girls about giving, receiving and saying thank you for their presents – rather than a magical being delivering hundreds of pounds worth of bikes/electricals etc. I really want to ensure they appreciate that presents cost money and that presents worth a lot of money don’t just appear. I also hope that this will make the finding out about Father Christmas easier, if they have always received bigger gifts from us I hope this won’t be as much of an issue.
So, that is what we’re doing. I don’t think there is a right or wrong at all, it’s definitely personal preference. As it was something we really had to think about and had very different experiences when we were young I decided to ask other bloggers what they do and it’s a very interesting read.
Vicky from Family travel with Ellie
In our house Father Christmas brings stockings for everyone and afew gifts. Other gifts are from us and family. We always embrace Father Christmas and his visit but don’t allow him to have all the “gift” glory!
Emma from Emma and the girls
We do the stockings on the bed and their presents of us are from Santa and then ones that from family they know nanny brought that and auntie brought that so on.
Sinead from Sinead Latham.com
Santa brings the stockings for our family……..the Small gets one ‘big’ gift from all the family together along with other bits and bobs on the day. Sounds a bit unChristmassy, but we aren’t religious and I want him to understand the value of the gifts he receives.
Emma from The Cheshire Wife
In our house Mummy and daddy send money to santa to buy gifts but only if he’s being good. The rest are from Mummy , daddy and family
Lianne from Anklebitersadventures
I just say that santa brings all the presents as that’s what I was told when I was little.
Georgina from Pixie Does
For us, Father Christmas brings one or two presents, nothing too expensive. Someone one said to me not to give big presents from father xmas – imagine the kids talking and wondering why FC brought some of them fancy expensive presents, and little presents to kids who’s parents don’t have much money – so I’ve made sure to keep the FC presents sensible in value. We also always pit out a glass of milk and mince pie for FC, and a carrot for Rudolph.
Nicola from Allthingsspliced
As children we were always of the impression that the presents were bought and paid for by our parents, family and friends, but that Father Christmas delivered them all. I didn’t realise that other families thought differently until I was an adult.
Emmy from Misadventurousmummy.com
A version I heard that I’m going to go with is santa brings a present and a stocking. That’s why we buy presents and so do other people (for him etc) however, some people aren’t as fortunate as us, so sometimes Santa takes them extra (to explain why some people think santa brings them all) we can help by giving our no longer loved toys to other people (possibly via the elf on the shelf?) It’s by no means a foolproof version, but I think it’s got the most potential to last and explain discrepancies. Then one day I’ll explain that doing nice things and making the magic means you are Santa so you can’t tell others!
Nicky from Spinninplates.com
Santas brings stockings and one present. The Christmas elves bring the Christmas Eve hamper…
Rhiannan from Mummy of four
We have tend to have a present from Mummy & Daddy and from siblings under the tree then things from Father Christmas in sacks left in the lounge. They don’t tend to have “main” expensive presents for Christmas, we save these for birthdays. We decided this as when they have had main presents for Christmas, we ended up buying a pile of stocking fillers to fill their eyes too.
Another tradition we have, is that they are allowed to open one present each from under the tree during the day on Christmas Eve. We have found out that this spreads the magic and keeps our very excited children entertained.
Kati from How to rock at parenting
In our house, Father Christmas only leaves one thing in each child’s stocking – a book. It’s got the double effect of both keeping the tradition alive without ever going OTT with presents and it also reminds them how precious books are.
In our house we have lots of little presents of low value in the stockings, and they are individually wrapped (hubby insists on this so I get him to do it, lol!) Then the main, larger presents are from us. Our kids’ birthdays are in late November so its often hard to find something they haven’t just received!
Leanne from A slice of my life wales
Santa brings the stocking and the presents off her letter to him, but she will be told to only put one or two things on her letter to Santa! Everything else will be from us/other family members.
Hollie from Thrifty Mum
We’re doing one main one for the boys to share being from Father Christmas as they’re only 14 months apart. The rest are from mummy and daddy. I’m trying this so when people or importantly other children ask my boys what Father Christmas brought them they can just say the one thing and rather than reel off a long list and hopefully their little friends won’t feel uncomfortable if they only got one gift in total.
How do you work Christmas in your household? Do you have Christmas traditions now you’re a family?