I remember reading something a while ago that said we should cherish every moment with our children; everytime they want to hold our hand, cuddle us, ask for our help or ask us to play with them as a time will come when they can do it themselves. I remember crying when I read this at the time as it felt so sad to think that Amelie wouldn’t need me anymore.
It’s inevitable that this will happen and we want it to; we want our children to grow into independent girls and boys but that doesn’t make it any easier.
She’s growing up so quickly…
I’m not sure what it is about the growing up between two to three but it feels like Amelie is growing into a little girl and quickly! Maybe I didn’t notice the little changes between one and two quite so much as I was at work and didn’t spend as much time with her as I do now. Either way I can’t believe the things she can do now and it’s made me really think about making sure I’m really appreciating her and our moments together.
In the last month Amelie has mastered a whole set of new skills, suddenly she can…
Put her own coat and shoes on – she lays her coat on the floor and throws it over her head (cue much excitement). She’s always been pretty good at putting on her shoes but I’ve always done them up. She caught me off guard the other morning when she ran into the hall and came back saying ‘Amelie ready to go with coat, shoes and backpack on!
Getting undressed – she’s always wanted to get herself undressed before her bath but now she can, I’m not sure when this happened but she just suddenly can!
Sitting on her own at book time – she’s started to ‘read’ to herself, she can’t read as such but she’ll look at the pictures and try and tell the story.
Making her own food – I promise I do actually look after my children, but this girl is too independent!! She can now get pasta out of the cupboard and put it in a pan ready to cook.
This has all coincided with her really being able to talk, it’s so nice to now be able to have a real conversation with her.
Stop, look, listen and spend time with her
Seeing her take on some of these tasks has really made me really stop and think. Life is so crazy with two little ones and it’s easy for days to fly by and not really remember all the small things that happen. Seeing Amelie take on all of these new tasks on her own really gave me the shake to try and start to appreciate what she still needs me for and one of the big things she does still need from me is time. Time one on one, time for just us as Amelie and Mummy time is scarce these days.
Last weekend, for Mother’s Day, we tried to do just that – spend time together. We went to Wisley which is a big RHS Garden with acres of land to explore. My parents were with us and pushed Evie in the pram so it was amazing to actually run after Amelie and be with her hands free! We looked at flowers, ran, chased each other, found hiding spots and generally enjoyed each others company.
We both really enjoyed it and Amelie was so tired from all of the fun. Seeing the joy on her face as we explored was the best feeling ever. We will be doing things like this more often…
Although she’s an independent little one I’ve found she still does need me and it was doing something I thought she didn’t need me for anymore. She said ‘Please help me Mummy, too hard for Amelie’ and of course I rushed to go and help.
Amelie I’ll always be there for you, even if you don’t think you need me.
Did your children take you by surprise doing something you thought they couldn’t do? Do you feel a tinge of sadness that they don’t need you anymore?