Your mother is your first friend, best friend and your friend forever.
I love this.
It’s a quote from a card I bought my Mum for Mothers Day, it felt so fitting both for my relationship with my Mum, but also the way I see the relationship with my girls and of course how I would hope our relationship continues in the future.
Your mother is your first friend
When Amelie and Evie were first born as their Mummy I was (just about) the first to hold them, I didn’t let them go in those first few weeks and have spent nearly every moment with them since and I think that’s probably why you start out life with a best friend.
There is a connection with your children that you can’t really explain and one that you instantly have. I was shocked at how I suddenly had this connection with my girls without even getting to know them, nature is a clever thing. Before I was a Mummy I never really understood this or knew how much I would love my children. You do so much that your heart sometimes breaks with how much you do… I worry every single moment about them; I creep into their rooms at night to check they’re ok and worry even when I pop out for 5 minutes!
We’ve been having bad nights with Amelie recently and she’s been sleeping with me. It really caught me off guard one morning when she woke me up, gave me the biggest smile and said ‘mummy you are my best friend’. For me the words were lovely to hear but it was the smile that confirmed that for the moment I’m her best friend.
Your best friend
I think your Mother is certainly your best friend when you are little, you look up to them and you spend every moment with them – it’s a wonderful time.
The teenage years (and I’m talking about me) can be a little less wonderful as you challenge your Mother (sorry Mum) and can generally be not very pleasant – I’m pretty sure my Mum didn’t want to be my best friend then! But that stage is all about growing and learning and as Mothers our job isn’t ever easy is it! Becoming a Mummy myself has shown me firstly what my Mum did for me and also brought us closer together, I trust my Mum’s opinion and always look to her for advice.
And your friend forever
I hope I’ll be their friend forever – my Mum is my best friend so I can only wish that we have the relationship I do with her.
Being a Mummy certainly has its tough and really rubbish times but as a Mummy you pick yourself up, brush yourself down and carry on. I now see why my Mum put up with me through some of my more challenging times, because that love is unconditional, I’ll always be there for my girls no matter how crazy they make me!
And for now when we have hard days or challenging moments I always remember that they don’t last and that tomorrow or in an hour there will be wonderful times. Wonderful times like Amelie telling me she loved me or the way Evie smiles at me first thing in the morning, seeing them grow and develop and literally bursting with pride. That’s what I’ll cherish for a lifetime.
Happy Mothers Day to all of the Mummy’s out there and especially to mine.